GAY Life


Now Available for Online Coaching

Living your "Best Gay Life,” of course, means living your best life in general, in every area. However, there can be a tendency to gloss over the unique form of subjugation gay people have experienced and the lingering, often unseen after effects that persist long after one has “come out.“ Hence the focus on living our best gay lives.


For gay men, living our best lives also means reconciling the ever-shifting concept of what it means to be a man. Let’s work together to overcome any limiting thinking, implement a plan to fulfill your goals, and find your most powerful expression for living your best gay life.



Part of what sets gay people apart from others is the particular nature of the message that tells us we are “not enough.” It can cause our hopes and dreams to go unrealized and life to feel unfulfilled. It can cause us to feel frustrated, directionless, lost. But our past shouldn’t be allowed to rob us of our future.  Even after we’ve come out, addressing the subtle, historical conditioning that told us we were deficient can positively impact every aspect of our lives. 

Quiet Forest

Forge a new path

This deep-rooted feeling of not being equal can show up in countless ways. It can cause us to isolate from others (even if only in our minds). It can limit our ability to be intimate because we fear rejection if we’re truly known. It can hamper our sex and romantic lives and stifle our ability to recognize our worth. It can serve as a distorted filter through which we view and experience virtually everything.


As we’re in the process of overcoming your limiting thinking, we’ll clarify your life goals and take action toward achieving them, integrating a newer operating system in the direction of living your Best Gay Life.

Through this work, growth, expansion, and freedom are possible. We can know more clearly who we really are and our inherent value. We can more fully own our unique expression. We can commence being our most expansive selves in the world.


Whether you’re focused on evolving as a gay man, developing a deeper spiritual understanding, targeting career goals, or improving your relationships or overall life picture, I look forward to working with you.

Ray of Light

ABOUt Robert

Like you, I started out with big goals and dreams for my life but little idea how to realize them. Gradually, I began to do that when I hit a crisis point. These external accomplishments weren’t addressing the low self-image from childhood that lingered internally. I remember the day many years ago when, on the steps of a beautiful home I shared with a partner, I contemplated suicide. 


That moment set me on a decades-long path of self-improvement, success, and spiritual awakening. It fueled my desire to help others change their own lives. Along the way, I’ve certainly stumbled but have learned and grown from each experience. I’m grateful on the other side of it to have manifested some of my greatest life visions.


My process of waking up has included accumulating several decades of knowledge in the areas of love, romance, money, and relationships, among others. My intensive overall spiritual journey has informed my perspective about the true nature of life and how to relate to what we deal with as humans. This journey has given me the foundation for the work we'll do together in our coaching session, and beyond, to help you live your best life.


Helping others wake up to the true nature of life and then clarify their goals and dreams and turn them into reality is one of my great passions. It’s from this place of awakened doing that an amazing life emerges. Let’s discover yours.

Testimonials for Robert's Workshops

“Full transparency. I was on the fence about signing up for Robert’s Living Your Best Gay Life workshop. Like many people weathering the pandemic, my life has been up in the air. I’m so happy I participated. Gant’s enthusiasm for teaching and inspiring resonated with myself and the other participants. He was so happy and excited to teach and share that it put myself and the others at ease. It was also inspiring to see someone so passionate about being a source of light in the world. The group of attendees for the virtual workshop was small and intimate with a very diverse demographic. It was nice being reminded for two hours that I am exceptional, I am whole, and I am who God/The Universe/The Powers That Be intended me to be. That’s a message most LGBTQs of color aren’t afforded. Gratitude to Gant for a blessed Saturday. I am definitely looking forward to the next workshop. And if anyone else has the opportunity to sign up, I encourage them to do so.”

— Dennis U.

“This workshop series came at a perfect time for me. While I've been "out" to my friends and colleagues for a long time, I came to the realization recently that I haven't been fully of my persona as a gay man. Upon this discovery, I've been processing and trying to understand how and why this acknowledgement hadn't happened previously and know that this will lead me to a place of complete self-love and freedom. "Living Your Best Gay Life" is going to open up so many doors so that I can understand my soul and work to maintain balance and self-love. The workshop is a perfect community to connect with and learn how to truly improve my life. I'm incredibly grateful to Robert for starting this group and showing his heart so gracefully so that others can grow.”

— Robert M.

Testimonials For Robert

“I was having trouble moving forward in my business and knew there were some blocks that I needed to address but didn’t how to resolve them. I had a lot of self doubt, imposter syndrome, and limiting beliefs coming up. Every time I’d come up to resistance in moving forward with a project in my business, Robert helped me to move through it easily and effortlessly.  Robert has a beautiful ability to hold space and always made me feel supported, seen, heard, and understood, free of judgement. As a gay man, it was important for me to find a coach who could step into my shoes and understand me. In each session, he brought me back to remembering who I truly am beyond the societal conditioning. He’s helped me gain the confidence to thrive in life and in my business, and I’m forever grateful for his coaching and guidance!”


— Jon H.

“I've struggled with self-doubt ever since I can remember. And despite having achieved success in many areas of my life, that doubt was ever-present. From decades of first-hand experience as a working professional, Robert's wisdom and perspective were instrumental in identifying those voices and limiting beliefs and helped create a paradigm shift in my perspective. Robert always creates a safe space for me to be fully transparent, and, in turn, fully vulnerable. With my walls down, I established a daily routine that supported my spiritual and emotional well-being, actionable steps towards my goals, and an attitude of gratitude for the process itself. I can't recommend working with Robert enough; he'll genuinely change your life.”


— Mark G.

“As a recent LA transplant trying to navigate this city and this industry, having a mentor who has been working in the business for as long as Robert has makes everything seem doable instead of daunting. Not only is he knowledgeable, talented, and well connected but he’s also incredibly kind and caring and really does want to see others succeed and is willing to go out of his way to help. I can’t thank Robert enough. 10/10 would recommend to a friend.”


— Sky K.

“Having Robert as a teacher and resource is a true gift. I’m just starting out as a model and actor, and his guidance has given me the confidence I need at this early stage of my career. Robert is patient and understanding, and his expert insight is a master class in navigating this industry. His guidance is invaluable. Thank you, Robert!"


— Sophia M.

“I enjoyed so much about the workshop, but I'd say what struck me the most was the raw honesty with which Robert in particular tackled everything. It almost made me forget he’s a celebrity since he was so incredibly approachable and coming at it from none other than his own human experience, sharing so many of the same struggles we all have faced. I also enjoyed realizing that even when we were all different, ethnicity, age, nationality, relationship status, etc., the ways in which we were all the same showed so much more clearly. It was a great lesson on the true notion of community. Also something major I took away was to learn that Robert, who always presents in such a wonderful light, also dealt with darkness and issues of shame, fear, vices, body image and relationship hardships. It truly made me feel less alone in that respect and even kind of empowered me to be less hard on myself for certain moments of my life.

Gonzalo V.​

“The positive impact that Robert has had on me during a really tough period in my life has been utterly immeasurable. His unique perspective and therapeutic insight truly allowed me to develop a sense of confidence and self-esteem that I never knew I had in relation to my sexuality. He encouraged me to feel comfortable about who I was and to ‘step into’ the next chapter of my life. The personal growth I have experienced since meeting Robert has encouraged me to explore my sexuality and develop really positive relationships. The freedom, comfort, and self-belief I now feel wouldn't have been possible without his guidance and love.”


— Sean T.

“After speaking with Robert, I knew I could achieve my dreams. He gave me the motivation I needed to see my goals as a viable career if I work hard enough and have the discipline to tackle this industry. It was so helpful to speak with someone with the expertise in the business side of this industry who could provide real world advice that will absolutely shorten my learning curve. Robert helped me understand that I am my own business and that, to be successful, I need be able to navigate every aspect of the industry.”


— Joesy D.

“I so appreciate the expert guidance I’ve received from Robert to allow me to move in the best direction for my career. His experience and professionalism from his years working in the industry have been invaluable in helping me navigate my way through this business. He always has an encouraging and supportive word to help me make my best decisions. He is wonderfully kind and generous with his knowledge, and I’m grateful for him being available when I’ve needed, whether on set or in the audition room, for his insight, patience, and understanding. He is definitely one of my “go-to guys” in this industry, and I’m so grateful to have him in my corner!”


— Nicole S.